As many of you know, as summer approaches, many go crazy, and realize they have a body. A body that in most cases does not like, given that nine out of ten people go on a diet right from May onwards, hoping to quickly lose 10, 20 or even 30 kilos “extra”. Let this be told by one who writes about diets, nutrition and fitness, who must be behind the releases of diet, nutrition and fitness books, which must follow two hundred trillion pages of diets, nutrition and fitness: it is right to want to improve one’s appearance. But that’s fair up to a point . Dieting is ok. But up to a certain point.

If you are ruining your life and stressing yourself to get your ideal body, maybe the ideal body is only ideal, while your real body is the ideal one for you.

I too would like to be thinner (and I am thin), I was born and raised in a context of strong bullying and fat-shaming when I was a young girl, growing up I became convinced that thin and beautiful were synonymous. But the truth is that even when I came to weigh 45 kilos I didn’t like it enough. And in many cases in my life I have eaten more to get better, putting on weight and not giving a damn about the scale. I had to deal with athletic trainers (at the moment I do weights) so my body was never enough and everything was a duty and there were three thousand sacrifices to be made. They had a short life with me for one simple reason: I could definitely be better than I am, I may be underweight and muscular, but I wasn’t leading the life I wanted.
It was not something I esteemed myself for. I respect people who like themselves, people who break the mold, people who know how to dare, who if they are original even in size do not go into hiding.
You will say: from what pulpit. But mine is not a sermon. Just because I’ve been fat, thin and had a life of eating disorders and I have a diet blog where, sorry, I need to inform you more than you, I’m the right pulpit. And since they are, I think it’s right that you know these things. Then you can live as you like, of course.

Thin and beautiful are not synonymous, there are reasons why our bodies are different from each other and I will point out some of them. 
– our number of adipocytes and our weight set point: each of us has a different number of adipocytes, often “set” in the years between childhood and puberty. For people like me with a high adipocyte count, the “right weight” is never underweight, but it is always a little higher than the norm. This category includes many people who tend to gain weight and who were often a little overweight as children. Having a history of thinness – that is, having been thin all your life – is different than having been overweight as a child and then trying to lose weight.
This must be very clear to you.
–genetics: if you gain weight preferably in one point rather than another, if you tend to respond to stress in a different way from others, if you are predisposed to certain pathologies because you are familiar with them. Here, against all these things your margin of action is always and in any case limited. If you’ve always had thick thighs, you won’t be able to have narrow hips.
There are people who are more predisposed, as a matter of luck,to fall within the size that the West considers ideal from a marketing point of view. Others who sweat and toil, but in essence those who sweat and toil put this sweat and this effort at the center of their existence. If they want to do it, let them do it. If they get sick or live badly trying to do it, justifying it all with the word passion when the right term is obsession , they are impoverishing themselves behind an ideal.  – wrong choices due to false beliefs:

if you put at the center of your existence an altogether useless tool such as the scale or think only of calories, it is difficult that you will be able to make the right choices in both sporting and nutritional activities. Because in both cases these are mental limits: few people are willing to eat more but better, perhaps, if they come from years of food restrictions, because for them to fix the metabolism is equivalent to failure, since, of course, if you eat more the metabolism rises but you get fat as well. If you exercise, it makes sense that you can’t pay attention to the scale because you will weigh more, and often have more water retention as well.
Cutting calories more and more will not make you have the ideal body, as will train more and more.I repeat it to you from one hundred to two hundred times in private mail, I say it to you, to you and to you when you write to me, yet you do not detach yourselves from what seem certainties.
When we simplify concepts such as ” calories count ” no one would think of freely dressing the tomato and carrot salad with raw oil. But the oil is used to assimilate the vitamins of carrots and salads, so if you only think about calories and balance you risk not only restricting your diet to a few foods, but also undernourishing. – the question of health.

The issue of healthy and nutritious diet has alas become the ultimate fad diet. Yes, because saying you do it to stay healthy when you don’t know a damn what’s going on in your body doesn’t make sense. We must always strive to see things subjectively: fibers are good for some, for others NOT. Drinking lots of water is perfect for some, for very stressed people NO.
When we talk about nutritious foods we often talk about calorie foods. Avocado is nutritious and rich in good fats and amino acids. But it has 160 calories per 100g, and I assure you that there are not many. Cheese is also nutritious: 380 calories of nutrition. You cannot eat only vegetables and exclude fruit because fruit has sugar or think that green foods are nutritious and the rest are not. Simplifying these concepts is also damaging.
So the point is: set aside something for the future, when you think about yourself.
Do not think about the ideal body if today you eat counting everything, if you do not train you feel guilty or on the contrary you weigh yourself twenty times on the scale. There is nothing wrong with you, your body IS NEUTRAL. 
Thinking that the body is necessarily beautiful is like thinking that nature must necessarily be beautiful.
It would make sense if we were immortal and young forever.
So, improving yourself is ok, but stopping for a moment, analyzing the quality of your life and thinking about yourself in ten or twenty years, is a reflection that must be made . Will you be on a diet even in twenty years? Will you eat less than now? Do you think that once you have the body you want you can stop making sacrifices?
The body you have now, if there are no health problems, that’s fine.
At the center of your life try to put happiness and the quality of your life, instead of an ideal.