It will be that it has happened to me many times to hear these phrases, it will be that I have happened to see people “sabotaged” by their friends or partners, it will be that I know how important it is to be motivated to lose weight. In short, it will be for all these things that I often stress that having partners or friends who know how to motivate is not only important but essential to lose weight : while the exact opposite, even if it is not predictive of your failure, makes it very hard for you.
And sadly, there are definite ways our friends or family can make us fail the diet. Here are what they are!

HOW FRIENDS (OR RELATIVES OR THE PARTNER) CAN THE DIET BE ABORTED?
1) “BUT YOU ARE VERY GOOD” AND “WHAT SHOULD I SAY THEN?” OR “BUT WHAT DO YOU NEED TO LOSE?” “YOU DON’T NEED IT”: these are all shades of a single message. Since according to them you don’t have to stay on a diet (what do they really think?), They tell you these things when you go out together, encouraging you to not care and eat. The point is that everyone thinks and acts for themselves, so it will be enough to say: “Girls (or boys), I have made this decision by now, help me to respect it”.

2) I LIKE YOU AS YOU ARE: typical of partners and relatives, more than friends, it remains an evergreen. Just answer that you, no, you don’t like being of this weight. Which doesn’t mean you don’t like yourself, but you don’t feel comfortable in another size.

3) ARE YOU ON A DIET ??? RIGHT NOW THAT THE NEW RESTAURANT HAS OPENED: who knows why when you are on a diet, new ideas for going out also pop up. And suddenly you discover that in your own city it has just opened:
– the chocolatier specializing in mega fountains and crepes as big as a double quilt
– the Mexican, the Vietnamese, the Japanese
– the pizza chef who is a friend of his friend’s friend because if you don’t go to his place he gets offended
– the one that is highly rated on Tripadvisor
The solution obviously is not to wall yourself alive at home, but to organize an outing for one of these culinary forays only once a week. With the foresight not to test the whole menu.

4) WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE A SMALL PIECE? Come on, what do you want it to be just a bite? A sandwich? Half a croissant? What if we shared the dessert (which they don’t like then)? I crave french fries and dipped in the jar of mayonnaise, can you keep me company? Won’t you let me eat alone / alone? What a spoilsport. Taste this, you have to taste it by force.
You react to all these food blackmails by convincing yourself of one thing, or rather two:
– the tastings are never isolated cases, the first is followed by the second
– each taste is 100 calories more (this is not always true but be the first to convince yourself)

5) COME TO DINNER WITH ME / APERITIF WITH ME / COOK ME: this infernal triad is the one that can happen to you when you say that you are on a diet. By Murphy’s law, everyone will invite you to their home for dinner. It is a matter of power: either their delicacies or their diet. Also because they will literally empty the pantry and cook things so greasy and indigestible that in comparison Nigella is a fruitarian. If you can’t come up with colic or a child with colic and it is bad to bring a plate from home because it is not one of those situations in which it can be done, sacrifice the weekly exit (this will become your free meal), stay on a diet on Sundays, avoid making an encore and lingering at the table.

6) I COOKED YOU A LIGHT THING: beware of the trap. By light they mean a shortcrust pastry with a kilo of honey and dried fruit inside, or a baked pastry with two more basil leaves to act as a vegetable representation. Every time someone offered me or paid homage to healthy things, they had those 300 calories more than their traditional counterparts. So don’t trust it and take a small portion.

7) COME ON, WILL YOU NOT BE SERIOUS? This happens less frequently, but it does happen. If you come out unscathed from the “you don’t need it – you’re fine !!!”, you may happen to hear a phrase like this or something like: “are you YET on a diet?” or “but you lose so much now and then you take them back” or “but what do you care? life is just one”. Phrases that imply that they are skeptical of your sacrifices and your results because they are the first to be unable to make and obtain them. So they would like you in their own boat, that of the I would like to but. Don’t fall for it: each of us has goals and a story of their own!