Do you know what matters a lot in our battle against extra pounds ? Friendships, partners, people who live next to us : we can also be our worst enemies, we who think we can eat more for once or we can be attractive even with a few extra pounds, which we then we will repent. But the environment is in second place . If we relate to the wrong people, we are either superman or it will be impossible for us to lose weight.
Let’s take a trivial example: friends. Indeed, the false friends. I know a girl who gained 10 pounds because of them.Whenever she comes to me to ask me how to lose weight, if I know someone or can I recommend something, only one answer comes into my head: CHANGE FRIENDS ! I stayed at her house for a week to see what she ate, her idea of ​​her. Aside from being sedentary and drinking very little, she didn’t eat much. She was the classic person who eats little and she doesn’t know why she always has a swollen stomach and is overweight. I found out after three days, when her friends came to visit her for a “pizza night” . I learn that this girl goes to the same group three times a week, days when they have dinner or lunch together. I’ll tell you short, she is the thinnest, as well as the most beautiful. The others are three girls, one obviously overweight, the other two seriously obese.Not of those who eat healthily. No.

The destructive. The ones who say they are allergic to salad.
Their meetings are the fair of mischief. If you eat terribly three times a week, it is logical that you gain weight. And in this case, each encounter ended with an “improvised” pasta with everything inside, pizza with everything inside, or movie night, with toast, bags of giant chips, packets of biscuits and a 5-kilo jar of Nutella (gift from a three o’clock). You may ask: is it possible that she does not realize this by herself? No, because my friend eats the least, so she thinks she is limiting herself: but a slice of pizza with all or two spoonfuls of Nutella inside from the maxi jar frustrates any effort.

In English we are called ” frenemies ” and the Huffington Post has dedicated an article to it . They are the friends who sabotage your attempts to lose weight, eating with you, going out with you and pushing you to eat, having deleterious behaviors, for example shooting themselves in front of you a plate of maxi fried with various sauces, knowing full well that you are on a diet . The classic phrases of frenemies are textbook : “but if you are thin!”, “Come on, taste just a piece”, “if I had your body I would not think about staying on a diet”, “eat that life is too short, not you can get stressed out by eating “,” if you go on a diet, what should I say? “, and so on.

The advice is to resist if you love them , for example with lethal phrases like “I care too much about my health (or my figure)”, “I am thin because I eat healthy”, “I am making a lot of sacrifices to lose weight (implied : and you would like to sabotage me?) ”, or the demonic“ I know you love me and you won’t judge me ”.

Unfortunately, efforts are often in vain, and being able to positively influence our friendships, or varying friendships, or varying meeting places can be ways to avoid breaking our diet, eating badly too often, feeling bad as a result.