Self-esteem and fat-shaming
If you are people who read and update themselves, you will not have missed some controversy about curvy models , the plus-sized ones that are ousting standard models, so to speak.
I hear journalists and even friends saying that since obesity has been officially considered a disease for some years now, curvy models are sick.
Well, that’s not exactly the case.
They may be in good health even though they are overweight, and on the other hand extreme thinness is also a sign of poor health.
Would you judge for this the very thin or fat people of the people who have to be treated always and in any case?
I guess not, although this way of continually judging people by their size, especially women, has an invisible boomerang effect. If you think beauty is just a matter of size , the first people to have a problem could be you. And in particular, you may be among the many who promote so -called fat-shaming .
But fat-shaming, or that form of bullying or provocation against fat people, could also be to your detriment.
How? Making you become victims of a system that feeds on clichés and which is first and foremost the media .
So everywhere the image of the woman is offered to us and re-proposed according to increasingly unattainable models, in which you win if you are very thin and you lose if you try to break through the wall of conventions.
And of course , fat-shaming isn’t just female.Â
Men can also be bullied for their extra pounds.
I don’t think there is anything more beautiful than seeing a person who is comfortable in his body, and respecting his health.
If she’s bursting with health but has a few extra pounds, what’s wrong with that?
And if instead she is naturally long-limbed and thin, why aim for the absence of breasts or on the contrary believe that she is necessarily very lucky?
If we want to get rid of some cliché that affects our life, making us slaves to diets, let’s avoid saying these phrases or phrases similar to these, which I got from this blog .
They are uneducative and promote fat-shaming.Â
3 PHRASES FROM FAT-SHAMING THAT DAMAGE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
- A moment (or a minute) on the mouth, a waist on the hips.
Why NOT say it.
Fixing every bite on what will make you fat or hurt is the way to be negatively obsessed with food, health on your plate, calories, and so on.
Worse still if we’re telling a teenager.
Much better to think of that extra bite or whim as part of a balanced diet.
A varied diet, without particular restrictions but following a choice of moderation, which is necessary to stay healthy, also includes those French fries or a one-off Nutella croissant.
Furthermore, few understand the incredible damage that stress causes when associated with food .
The fear that with every bite we will gain weight, that what we eat will create unpleasant consequences and so on, is the best way not to enjoy it, and to feel bad. - Oh my God, how you lost weight!
Why NOT say it:Â being thin can be synonymous with being beautiful or feeling good for many, but not everyone, and let’s face it, thank goodness.
By meeting a person and telling her that she is fine because she has lost weight, you give them and you give yourself this bad mental association: health = thinness or beauty = thinness.
Which educates you and educates her to think that in order to feel good and be beautiful she must necessarily appear thinner.
What if that thinness was the result of a very bad diet?
If you think a person is in great shape, don’t bet on their body.
Tell her she’s fine and stop. - Does this look / dress make me fat?
Why NOT tell yourself or your friends (eg Horizontal stripes get fat! Or Those pants you can only afford if you have thin legs!).
Again, an association that ties aesthetics to thinness, and feeling good about having to look slimmer. Some time ago I saw the video of a fashion blogger who proposed outfits for the summer.
Among the comments, one that pointed out that that skirt does not fit “if you have stubby legs”.
Is it possible that a person, and in particular a woman, cannot freely put on something she likes?
Is it possible that every time we have to dress we must have three thousand stakes and the fixation that what we have chosen can make us look fatter?
Have you wondered, if so, whose problem would it be?
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